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March 20, 2018 · Blogging Tips, Blogging Tips + Career

Blogging Takeaways: What I’ve Learned from My Girlfriends

We made it! First day of Spring and a nor’easter on the way in late March. Every day I keep asking myself if it’s going to be the week that we’re actually going to start transitioning out of winter here in NY ?.

In this month’s installment of Behind the Blog, I’m shifting gears a bit and speaking from a more personal point of view about my blogging takeaways thus far and what I have learned from some incredible women I’ve met along the way.

For many of us one-woman-shows, it’s incredibly easy to get wrapped up in ourselves. If it hasn’t already hit you, blogging is a selfish business, and it takes a healthy dose of mindfulness to realize that your success is not always going to translate to you and you alone. Of course, I would never stand here and tell you that I, myself wasn’t responsible for some of my successes; but what I WILL tell you is that some of my biggest wins to date are thanks to the help of my girlfriends. Here’s what they have taught me… 

 

1 / Quality over Quantity

In the blogging world, you’re going to form a lot of relationships, but it’s the quality ones that will benefit you the most. I mean, kind of common sense right? As a blogger, it’s easy to get wrapped up in ‘being everyone’s friend’. When it comes to bloggers and even brands, I’ve learned to value my smaller, quality relationships the most.

2 / Give Yourself a Break

I am and will always be my own toughest critic when it comes to my blog. What I’ve learned from my girlfriends though is that there are so many things that are so much more important and pressing going on around me, and that it’s so important to cut yourself some slack. When I’m not feeling it, I’ve learned that it’s okay to give myself a break.

3 / Stop Trying to Please Everyone

Although I wouldn’t consider myself a people-pleaser, I would absolutely say that I work very hard to make sure that the content I’m putting in front of my readers is worth their while. My girlfriends and I are all so vastly different, and it’s only natural that what my demographic may like, Lindsey’s demographic may not. I learned very quickly to stop worrying about creating content for the people I’m never going to please, and to instead focus more on creating content for my already-loyal readers.

blogging takeaways

blogging takeaways

blogging takeaways

 

4 / There’s Always More to Learn

Always! For lack of a better word, I can be a bit of a know-it-all in my own head. AKA, I rarely find myself in a situation that I think I can’t tackle (I guess that can also be a positive trait though, right?). What I will say though, is that there is so much I would have never figured out on my own if it wasn’t for my friends. Everybody has their strengths, and while you should always be confident in yours, you shouldn’t be afraid to relinquish some control and learn from others either.

5 / The Fine Line Between Healthy & Unhealthy Comparison

There is not one blogger out there who doesn’t compare themselves to others. Whether it’s subconscious or outright, assessing your worth and how it stacks up against everyone else is a natural human response. In some cases, I’d even say that it’s a healthy way to rev up your drive and determination. Comparison, however, can turn unhealthy real quick. There’s a fine line between the two and the second you start to fixate, you have to realign your focus. We will always find qualities that may seem more desirable in others, and therefore there will always be something out there that makes you second guess what you’re doing. However at the end of the day, you’ll always feel best when you let them do them, and let you do you. 

blogging takeaways
blogging takeaways

5 / Blogger Friends are Some of the Best Friends

It’s so incredibly important to have and use that support system. If you haven’t yet found your people, you will; and when you do, you’ll know exactly what I mean. 

 

xx.

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  1. Danielle says

    March 26, 2018 at 7:18 pm

    Great post girl! I really loved this and you made some great points! The blogging world really has been a great place to meet some amazing people!

    Reply
  2. Ashley Hargrove says

    March 23, 2018 at 6:35 pm

    So many great points here! Definitely agree with quality over quantity and to stop trying to please everyone!! Love this post!

    Reply
  3. Cecilia says

    March 22, 2018 at 2:06 pm

    This is such a great post! I love reading what women have learned from blogging, especially beyond the business/creative side of it. Hearing about the friendships you’ve formed is awesome! Thanks for sharing!

    xoxo, Cecilia // sunnysidececilia.com

    Reply
  4. Megan says

    March 22, 2018 at 10:52 am

    These takeaways are so true! You have such a cute blogger squad girl!

    Megan | http://www.pipmegan.com

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:34 pm

      Aw thanks lady!

      Reply
  5. Emily Wilkinson says

    March 22, 2018 at 10:35 am

    All of these takeaways are SO true! Love the advice girl! XO

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:32 pm

      Thanks for stopping by Emily! xx

      Reply
  6. Lauren says

    March 22, 2018 at 10:08 am

    Love this post, Danielle! I definitely agree with your takeaways. Quality is always better than quantity!

    Xx,

    Lauren | lifestylesbylauren.com

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:31 pm

      Thanks so much Lauren! Absolutely – that’s probably one of the most important things I’ve learned 🙂

      Reply
  7. Jenelle says

    March 22, 2018 at 7:41 am

    Definitely all good lessons! And you are so right, we never stop learning! Super cute photos!
    xx Jenelle
    http://www.inspiringwit.com

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:31 pm

      Thank you so much Jenelle!

      Reply
  8. Jenn Loyd Life + Style says

    March 21, 2018 at 11:51 pm

    Blogger friends are some of the best! I love these lessons!

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:30 pm

      Thanks so much Jenn!

      Reply
  9. Laura || Walking in Memphis in High Heels says

    March 21, 2018 at 7:11 pm

    This post is so true! Having a few amazing friends over 20 acquaintances is so much better. I love the giving yourself a break and stop trying to please everyone. Once you realize you can’t please everyone, you stop trying to please everyone.

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:30 pm

      Totally true, Laura! Thanks for stopping by 🙂

      Reply
  10. McKenna BASS TRAHAN says

    March 21, 2018 at 6:01 pm

    Love love this post!! I have learned so much about myself blogging and am thankful to have found good friends in it too! I’m upstate NY, not sure where you are but I am definitely over this winter! XO!

    Reply
    • Danielle says

      March 22, 2018 at 1:29 pm

      Thanks so much McKenna! Having that support system totally makes all the difference.

      Reply

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